Phase 8: push and notifications

Implements PLAN.md Phase 8. internal/pushrules is the rule language: the
spec's default ruleset, all six condition kinds, glob and word-boundary
matching, intentional mentions switching off the legacy body rules, and
rule ordering as Synapse has it. internal/pushserver keeps the rules,
pushers and notifications and talks to push gateways.

Push rules are the m.push_rules account data, written only by the push
server; reads keep the user's own rules and the enabled/actions of each
default and take the rest from the current defaults, so new default rules
reach every user without a migration. PUT account_data/m.push_rules is
refused with 405.

The push server listens on the roomserver's emit stage and evaluates each
event on its own worker for every local member and an invite's target.
Notifications and per-room unread counts are stored in migration 0010;
counts are a seventh sync token stream, so /sync reports
unread_notifications and picks up count changes made after the event or by
a receipt from another device. m.read and m.read.private receipts clear
the counts; leaving a room clears it.

Pushers (http kind only) push through a bounded sender pool with retries,
honour event_id_only, drop push keys the gateway rejects, and go away with
their device. GET /notifications pages the history. New config section
push: enabled, include_content, gateway_timeout, notification_retention.

Account data writes now wake the user's blocked syncs.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

server/internal/userapi/userapi.go

@@ -8,8 +8,9 @@
 // without starting a server.
 //
 // Nothing in this package knows about rooms. A device's encryption keys
-// are the keyserver's, which hears about a device going away through the
-// DeviceObserver; its push rules arrive in Phase 8.
+// are the keyserver's and its pushers the push server's, and both hear
+// about a device going away through the DeviceObserver. Push rules are
+// account data, but the push server is their only writer.
 package userapi
 
 import (